Don’t Disown Yourself, Befriend Yourself!

When we experience trauma, we often feel fragmented as we try to disown our traumatic experiences, almost as if we are denying parts of ourselves. It is hard to feel whole when you feel fragmented. It is even harder to live a life of joy.

You may be saying to yourself, “I don’t know myself” or worse, “I don’t like myself.” And, there is a good chance that you won’t befriend someone you don’t know or don’t like. This makes a tough situation when befriending yourself is so important.

What’s really interesting is trauma survivors tend to be compassionate and caring of others but when it comes to self-compassion and offering ourselves the same kindness it’s nearly non-existent.

Surviving trauma is actually what created this dilemma for us. Maybe we adapted during the trauma to avoid self-compassion. Or, maybe we even self-judged or shamed ourselves before we were found lacking by our perpetrators. Many of us have likely built a belief that others deserve more or are worth more than ourselves.

Well, my friend, it is time to befriend yourself by building some emotional resilience. It’s time to learn how to adapt to any adverse experience – whether it is past, present, or future. When you develop your emotional awareness, you will find this helps you understand what you’re feeling and why. Committing to your healing only gets you started. What carries you through to the other side where a life of happiness and joy exists, is your determination and persistence to achieve your desires.

Now, what will it take to begin to turn that all around? Repressing emotions creates an internal struggle and takes you out of alignment. This is all part of denial. But, overcoming it allows you to stay true to yourself and will increase your personal power.

And, of course, you will find that joy again.

We are talking about making peace with our past – and that includes our trauma. 

See, trauma plays a huge role in who we are and what we want. If we continue to feel wounded by the loss, injustice, and regret that it has brought to us, we are actually depriving ourselves of feeling joy, bliss, peace, and love.

And each of us deserves all the good things that life has to offer.

To make peace with your past, you must figure out what you are denying yourself. And understand that we need to begin to unconditionally accept ourselves and build resilience. It is time to develop a relationship with our whole selves.

Befriend yourself by caring for your needs, regularly make time for yourself,
and focus on your inner world.

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