Releasing the Hold Shame Has on Your Life - Part 1

In week one of this four-week series, I’ll explain how shame can hold us back. I also share how putting yourself first can create a happier life, through the art of self-care.

In week one of this four-week series, I’ll explain how shame can hold us back. I also share how putting yourself first can create a happier life, through the art of self-care.

Thank you for joining me for this life changing blog series. I’m Janine Naus and I am a Grief and Trauma Relief Spiritual Life Coach supporting women in grief due to trauma so that they can stop suffering and be able to more easily navigate their healing process. In this series, we will be exploring shame and its effect on our lives. As a trauma survivor myself, feeling shame has played a huge role throughout my life. Unfortunately, shame is something we don’t often talk about which is one of the main reasons it festers and grows. That is why it is my mission and my passion to help others stop suffering and give you the tools and support to begin to move towards living a life of joy and peace. 

Throughout this series, we’ll talk about what shame is, how it impacts our world and how we can use it to transform our lives. So let’s get started:

How Does Shame Impact Self-Care?

For survivors of trauma, shame is an all too familiar feeling. To move to a place where we can perform self-care, we must move away from shame and towards self-love. Regularly performed self-care is done by those that feel worthy and valuable. Therefore, self-care and self-worth is intricately connected. 

What is Self-Care?

Self-care is exactly what it sounds like - taking care of yourself. This can and does mean different things to different people. I break down self-care into 2 categories, primary and secondary. Within primary would be basic hygiene and life maintenance. For example: 

  • Bathing,

  • Washing your hair,

  • Brushing your teeth,

  • Getting restorative sleep,

  • Nourishing your body,

  • Incorporating fitness into your life,

  • Attending regular doctor visits, and

  • Keeping your home and belongings clean and in good repair, etc.

The secondary category would include things like: self-soothing rituals such as journaling or meditating, creating time for rest and reflection, taking time off for vacation, as well as other self-care activities like massages, manicures, reiki, etc. For so many survivors, self-care falls by the wayside because of how well you care for yourself is largely determined by your health and mental wellbeing. When stuck in the cycle of shame, our health and wellbeing suffer dramatically. Conversely, when you’re ready to stop suffering and start living a life of fulfillment, clarity, ease, gratitude and joy, you are inherently committing to self-care. If we are filled with shame, we don’t feel like taking care of ourselves, so how do we move out of this cycle?

How To Put Yourself First

Put the oxygen mask on yourself first – then you can help others.” This is part of every flight attendant’s briefing for passengers before every flight and is such a great metaphor for self-care! As women it is our nature to take care of others, to be selfless, to give.  Which means when it’s time to look out for ourselves, we all too often forget. In fact, it is absolutely necessary to learn to care for yourself when healing from trauma. We are all our own healers and until we take self-care seriously, we’re unable to take care of others.

The first step is in understanding that performing self-care will help us move through shame. It is essential to perform self-care, even if you don’t feel like it or don’t feel that you deserve it or it makes you feel ‘selfish’ when it comes to self-care. Remember that giving yourself time for self-care isn’t selfish - it’s an act of self-love. You are the only person that can be responsible for taking care of yourself.

When you are in your flow, you’re in your ‘now’ moment, which is your authentic self. This happens when you put yourself first, activating energies of self-love, self-appreciation and honoring yourself.

Know that is possible to move through and overcome your feelings of shame. There are 4 steps that will help you to move through shame and build your resilience:  

  1. Practice self-care

  2. Understand what triggers feelings of shame for you

  3. Develop positive strategies for processing and coping with triggers

  4. Don’t allow shame to flourish by keeping secrets - share your story with a trusted person in a safe environment

The last point really resonates with me. Shame grows with secrets, silence and judgement. And the antidote is empathy. One strategy you can use to increase empathy is to treat yourself like you’d treat someone you love. Be conscious of how you treat yourself and make the positive switch in your everyday life.

What Happens Next?

Well, in the next blog in this series about shame, we’ll look at how shame can make us feel like we’re not good enough in life. See you there (click here to read the next blog in this series)!

Shame is just one of the topics covered in my Stop Suffering Now group program. If you’re ready to stop suffering now and start feeling relief, I invite you to a complimentary 30-minute call to see if Stop Suffering Now is the right next step for you. Click Here to Schedule Your Free 30-Minute Healing Discovery Call.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How Does PTSD Cause Physical Pain?

Did you know that at any given time, around 8 million people in the U.S. are suspected to have PTSD?

Here’s an introduction to what PTSD is, and how it impacts our physical well-being.

Did you know that at any given time, around 8 million people in the U.S. are suspected to have PTSD?

Believe it or not, there are people who have PTSD and don’t know it. They walk around dealing with the symptoms, not knowing that what they are experiencing is very real – and that there is help out there. With anything in life, educating yourself is important. And, I am glad you are here.

What is PTSD?

PTSD, or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, occurs after an uncontrollable traumatic event in life. It is known as an anxiety disorder.  When referring to childhood trauma, this experience causes instant changes to your system, leaving your body with an intense fear or feelings of danger. Initiating the fight or flight response, your body goes into protection mode in an attempt to save you from future harm.

But let’s move past all the technical tidbits and talk about some real PTSD, shall we?

In case you have not read my personal story of trauma, I experienced several instances of sexual abuse in my youth. When I was five years old, several teenage boys horrifically tied me up to rafters, then gagged, raped and heartlessly left me in a burning garage. At age 11, neighborhood kids brutally stripped me in a game they called 'Strip or Sing.' Then, when I was 13, a teenage boy chased, pinned down and raped me in the bathroom of my home when I caught him engaged in sexual acts with others. And, at 14, a high school custodial manager sexually abused me. Sadly, it didn’t end there.

Why am I sharing all of this with you?

I want you to think about my past trauma. Then, think about how I felt each time I was near a boy. Or, how about each time I was left alone near a boy. Think about the fear. The guilt. The anger.

How would you feel? How do you think you would react?

The responses that would appear throughout my life each time I found myself in particular situations are from the PTSD that resulted from this childhood trauma.

What Are The Symptoms Of PTSD?

There are various symptoms of PTSD. You may experience just one, several, or a combination of any symptoms below:

·       A difficulty to relax, concentrate, sleep and keep calm – these are also known as reactivity symptoms

·       A tendency to relive the trauma, through nightmares, memories and flashbacks

·       Frequent mood changes that impact relationships with others, personal goals or general happiness

·       Carrying avoidance symptoms, where you avoid anything to do with trauma, even doing the things you once enjoyed doing

Does PTSD Cause Physical Pain?

We can often forget the impact it causes on our entire body. It is not just a mental health condition - PTSD can very easily affect our physical health. Unfortunately, the physical pain we feel results in us seeking physical medical advice first.  

Most doctors will move forward with treating your physical symptoms, rather than making an attempt to improve overall mental wellbeing. And, while the medical doctor may give you a course of treatment to help your physical symptoms, you are not getting to the root of the problem – your PTSD – and therefore the physical symptoms will likely re-occur.

If you think you may be suffering from PTSD, then it’s so important to seek out experts who can help heal your mind, as well as your body.

What Does PTSD Do To Our Physical Health?

Our overall health is made up of three sacred areas:

  1. physical health

  2. mental health

  3. spiritual health

And when we suffer from difficulty in one of the three, they can have a residual effect on others. PTSD can cause anxiety, physical tension and stress, sleep problems, back pain, stomach pains, migraines, and other issues. All of these physical symptoms stem from symptoms of PTSD.

What To Do If You Think You May Have PTSD?

If you’re one of the 8 million people in the U.S – or think you might be – then it’s time to create heaven in your life and start healing. You are not alone…

I had talked to therapists, doctors, pastors, friends, family, and even self-help books. Yet I didn’t feel like anyone could understand or relate to what I had been through and how that trauma was affecting my life.

Does this sound familiar to you? If you’ve tried one therapy or practice and it’s not worked, then I have some good news for you. There’s no one route to recovery, but there is a way to overcoming trauma.

Find your way today in a free Healing Discovery Call. Your time is now.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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The Link Between Chronic Pain and Childhood Trauma

My earliest trauma happened when I was just five years old, when the worst things were done to me.

This blog highlights my experiences and discusses the link between childhood trauma and chronic pain.

Carrying pain and hurt from the past is heavy.

It may not be a tangible heavy, but your body can feel it even when you can’t.

When it builds up over time, it can begin to manifest itself as physical, chronic pain in several ways. To understand how and why this happens, we must dig a bit deeper.


How Chronic Pain Links To Childhood Trauma

If you have experienced trauma in your childhood and you are seeking healing, there is a good chance that you have tried to do some research to find something – anything - that will help. In doing so, you may have come face-to-face with the many studies that link chronic pain to childhood trauma.

Personally, I did not know the connection until I discovered these studies. And I have witnessed it first hand, it all began to make sense. See, I am a survivor of childhood trauma. I felt the impact of abuse when it happened and felt the pain well into adulthood. It never seemed to go away.

The studies I have read show that the greater frequencies of traumatic events in a child’s upbringing, the greater the chance they would suffer from serious physiological disorders as an adult.

For me, the trauma started at age five when I was horrifically tied to rafters, gagged, raped, and heartlessly left in a burning garage. At age 14, a high school custodial manager sexually abused me, leaving me to be further impacted by a series of furious threats and mental torture by his wife and members of the community.

Unfortunately, these were not the only times I experienced trauma in childhood. Well into adulthood, however, the result of the trauma from my past left me with anger, fear, unmanageable emotions, a lack of confidence, difficulty with intimacy, and so much more.

Why Does Childhood Trauma Impact Our Physical Wellbeing?

Take a moment to consider your own traumatic past.  Or, if you don’t want to, take one of my examples above. When we are in that traumatic moment, you feel threatened and will find yourself bombarded with immense toxic feelings of stress, don’t you? Even now, thinking back to the trauma, you may feel these feelings.

This is known as the fight or flight response.  And, it encompasses all the physiological feelings that come from these rough situations. Your brain and nervous system work together to release norepinephrine as a result – and prepare your body for battle.  

As I grew older and I began trying to engage in relationships with others, when intimacy came into the picture, I’d found myself in a fight or flight moment. The mere thought of getting close stirred up so many unhealthy emotions.

Unfortunately, when these feelings are not addressed (and healed), you may be feeling this level of stress throughout your youth and into your adulthood. Over a period of time, it can damage the nervous system, namely our neural connections. Harvard’s Center on the Developing Child states: the impact of such incidents ‘persist far into adulthood, and lead to lifelong impairments in both physical and mental health’.

What Can We Do To Stop Chronic Pain From Childhood Trauma?

So much research is being done by paediatric health care providers and industry educators to help us better understand the impact of childhood trauma on our physiological wellbeing. This will allow us to identify vulnerable children sooner and help those later in life who suffer in silence.

Could you imagine how life would be different if the results of childhood trauma didn’t follow you into adulthood?

Do You Suffer From Pain From Childhood Trauma?

If so, it is time to let it go, don’t you think?  I have been there. My childhood is so full of traumatic moments that it took me until I was 50 years old to make that transformation and let that pain go.

So, I have been where you are. And, I have pulled through. You can too! It all starts with a free Healing Discovery Call and After the call, you’ll discover more about your road to healing and overcoming trauma. I’d love to help you, so Healing Discovery Call.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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Will You Ever Be Good Enough?

Do you ever ask yourself if you’re good enough?

This article looks at why we do this and how we can learn to witness the feeling of ‘never being good enough’.

“I am never good enough”

Sound familiar? Do you ever have moments of self-doubt or uncertainty? Do you ever wonder whether you have what it takes to reach your life goals and desires? Join the club. You're not alone!

How does it make you feel? Intense? Confused? Like there’s a barrier stopping you in your tracks?

Why are you not good enough? Or better worded, why do you think you’re not good enough?

Why You Feel You’re Not Good Enough

This feeling and statement comes from your unconscious ego, which manifests from not feeling content. The feeling arrives at times where we’ve created something wonderful. But at the same time, we are unable to embrace the breadth of this wonderful life. This is often because our life never truly fits the idea of what ‘good enough’ should be.

“I am what I am”

Say the above out loud. You are as you are. You are the real, authentic you. You’ve no need to validate who it is you are, you are love and you have the ability to be, to give and to receive love.

Instead of feelings of doubt and concern, try coming from your heart. Try eradicating those false truths that you’re not good enough, all because of your mind continuing to hold on to them.

How To Start Feeling Good Enough

Expectations

Stay in the moment and focus on the here and now. Let life unfold as it will unfold. If you resist, you’ll suffer. Keep your focus on this moment. You are, who you are.

Conditioning

As we’re born without conditioning, our curiosity allowed us to enjoy our worlds. Well, up until it became a natural habit and we absorbed values and beliefs from others (such as parents, leaders, and teachers). When this is unhelpful to us, recognize the thought of ‘not being good enough’. Where does it come from? Ask yourself “is simply saying this enough proof that I am not good enough?” and learn to question your thoughts deeply, reaching out for a ‘Higher Thought’. Let go of unhelpful, false thoughts that do not serve you.

Thoughts

When we give power to false thoughts, they feel truer, when in fact, they’re the least authentic thoughts we have. We must recognize these thoughts as they come and go. Sometimes the thought may linger, and so does the feeling, but remember, you don’t have to stay there. Practice witnessing your thoughts, rather than believing them. And give yourself space between thoughts by witnessing them.

Now ask yourself: “Am I good enough?”

Get in touch

Everyone, at some point, has not felt good enough. Remember you are not your thoughts. See through your fears. You have everything you need to be happy, within. Get in touch and find out how I can help you on your journey to overcoming trauma.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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Choose Will Or Surrender?

On your healing journey you have a decision to make.

Will or Surrender: Which will you choose?

Overcoming trauma isn’t easy.

It’s a journey of self-discovery, transformation and awakening.

If you’re reading this article, you are on the healing journey. Even if it’s the very first thing you’ve read on trauma. And you’re getting closer to an empowered life of inner peace.

Reflect on your journey and congratulate yourself.

It’s Decision Time

Today you are faced with a choice. It’s a big decision you must make. That’s right - you, making an empowered decision. So embrace it!

You’ve been hiking down a trail and arrived at a fork in the road. Now is your chance to choose the direction you wish to turn. On your journey to healing and moving past your trauma, you’ll have discovered many things.

You learn to wave goodbye to your ego and awaken your inner self. The two cannot exist within you. Yet they both arrive at the same destination.

Here’s your choice:

Choosing Will

Choosing a path of ‘will’ means you’ll be a witness to everything you say or do. Moving forward you’ll be witnessing the Self within you, and that indirectly concerns your ego. And as you start witnessing, you become aware and awaken your inner self. When your inner self awakens, your ego sleeps – they cannot exist simultaneously.

Choosing Surrender

Choosing a path of ‘surrender’ directly and immediately concerns the ego, not the Self. And when we make the ego vanish, we awaken the inner Self unknowingly!

 So, what will it be? Comment below or get in touch today to let me know.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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Unlock Your True Nature: The Three Principles

Our experience of life is based on three things.

They’re three things you can’t see, touch or feel…

Our experience of life is based on three things.

They’re three things you can’t see, touch or feel.

They are three principles: Mind. Consciousness. Thought.

And they help us make sense of our true nature. Also known as our ‘essence’. It’s the nature of who we really are. It’s so important we understand this, to make the most of our existence and experience in this world. As I say, there are three invisible principles, which are instrumental to the life we experience.


Principle 1: Mind

The power of the mind

The mind is not our thoughts. It’s the formless energy behind the intelligence within it. And behind all the functioning is your beating heart, circulating blood and breathing lungs. It all works without us needing to do a single thing. It creates everything you see in the moment. In fact, many refer to the mind as God, Infinite Intelligence, Source and many more.

Principle 2: Consciousness.

The power of consciousness

Also known as our pure awareness, our consciousness is not a physical thing. Being conscious is knowing what is around us and how we experience it. It is the power to be aware, and to be aware that we’re aware. Our consciousness gives us the capacity to experience all that we desire in that moment. It brings our thoughts to life. It is the ‘I Am’ and the reason we’re able to choose to create heaven, wherever ‘I Am’.

Principle 3: Thought

The power of thought

Thought is considered a pure, impersonal substance allowing us to create thought-forms. Not only this, but it allows us to experience life through our own reality. It’s what makes each and every one of us unique, and our own individual. Our thoughts are our stories, memories, perceptions, values and beliefs. Our thoughts are our dreams.

The Power of the Three Principles

You’ll notice I introduce each principle with the ‘power of…’. I do this because all three principles give you power and control to live life on your terms. They empower you to open your heart to a cherished, authentic life, which are full of enjoyable, meaningful relationships.

Do you know your true essence?

To discover more about the three principles, reach out to me today by commenting below or by arranging a free 30-minute Healing Discovery session.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How To Overcome Fear And Anxiety

Here’s a great exercise that you can do right away. It’s an easy way to control unexpected feelings of anxiety and fear.

Trauma and anxiety go hand in hand.

And anxiety comes in a variety of forms. It can pop up when we least expect it, for what seems no apparent reason. We can carry it with us for hours, days or months at a time.

Either way, the impact it has on our mindset and health can be horrific. During or after feelings of anxiety, we may begin to judge ourselves or believe something is wrong with us. It’s important to reassure yourself. And tell yourself that this may not always be true.

When we feel fear, we know it is a response to something potentially dangerous or a perceived danger. And what many people fail to realize is there’s a science behind it. There’s a part of our brain that triggers this nervous response. And it works on body memory…  Its scientific name is Magdala!

What does Magdala do?

Our body remembers all things that are dangerous from the past.

It doesn’t matter if it’s emotional or physical, it triggers a response to danger before it enters the cognitive part of our brain. Magdala then signals the cognitive part of our brain to process and determine what it is that’s going on. The feelings we get as a result are feelings of protection and flight or fright in the body. So in the haze of confusion it doesn’t realize everything is actually okay, and leads us to believe there’s something wrong.

Unless you’re aware of this feeling, the experience doesn’t feel too good, and we don’t know why we feel this way. But hey, guess what? Now you know. So you’re aware that what’s really happened is there’s been a trigger from your emotional body memory correlation, to some past memory that once scared us.

What we need to do?

It’s quite practical really. We must remind the cognitive part of our brain that everything is fine, and give it a few minutes to be calm.

What we tend to do?

Unfortunately we tend to create a feeling that something is wrong, and re-loop the emotional body memory correlation to a past memory that once scared us. Which means we inadvertently release those hormones, thinking we’re keeping safe.

As for next time…

In reality anxiety does not come out of the blue.  So next time you feel anxious unexpectedly and you are aware everything is okay, then simply follow the step above. Remind your body that everything is okay and wait ten to fifteen minutes for your body to calm.

Speak with me today

To discover more about fear and anxiety, and how to control it, then reach out to me today by commenting below or by arranging a free Healing Discovery session call.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How To Respond And Not React

In difficult situations, and with difficult people, we can often find ourselves reacting, rather than responding.

And together with setting and practicing positive boundaries, choosing to respond is always best.

Think of a time when someone was rude to you.

Or failing that, think of a time when someone has been difficult with you.

It’s so challenging to know how best to handle this kind of situation.

Rule number one. When they are rude or disrespectful, don’t take it personally, be silent and then simply move on.

Unfortunately for them, these people only understand from their level of perception, from the way they see the world. When their perception does not come from a place of compassion, love or understanding, it comes from a place of fear. And when we allow someone else to cause drama around us, by something they’ve done or said, they may feel in control of you at that moment.

Here’s a quote I swear by in such times:

“The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me.  The last of one’s freedom is the ability to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.” Victor Frankl

The truth is, when you react to the actions of what someone else does to you, you may not have set clear boundaries. We discussed setting positive boundaries in a previous blog.

Choosing to respond

You have the power within to choose how you respond. That’s right! Which means you are in control of the direction of what happens next. If you feel you’re over reacting to a situation, step away so you can regain your composure, and then choose your best way to respond.

To learn more about setting boundaries or choosing to respond rather than react, then reach out to me and schedule your free 30-minute healing discovery session.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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Why Boundaries Can Build Better Relationships

Tired of feeling unappreciated and disrespected? Wouldn’t it feel amazing to feel respected and listened to by those around you? Here’s how setting positive boundaries can help you. Enjoy!

Do you ever find yourself feeling disrespected? Do those around you ever put down our opinions and ignore or refuse your requests? I’ve been there. And I know it left me feeling ignored, undervalued and unappreciated. In order for us to respond and make real change, we must consider the boundaries we set for others and ourselves.

As children we quickly learn the fact of life that people are not nice sometimes and that they can take advantage of others. This is where setting boundaries is crucial to keep relationships healthy, fair and authentic.

What are Boundaries?

Boundaries are often discussed in a negative way, but in fact, they are quite often the solution to negative feelings or situations. You do not need to justify, apologize for, nor explain boundaries you choose to set. And when setting them, be calm, be clear, be certain, be courteous, be you.

Boundaries can define who we are, and allow us to ask for what we need. It gives us the confidence to say ‘No’ without feelings of guilt. So consider starting to act according to your own values and beliefs, and not that of others.

How to set good boundaries

When we consider the power of boundaries in our lives, we realize that boundaries give us responsibility to be truly happy, and feel responsible for the happiness of those around us. When boundaries are set, you are in touch with your own feelings, and not the holder of the feelings of others. And finally, boundaries are guidelines for you to know what is, and what is not acceptable to you.

Here are three top tips to setting good boundaries:

Tip One: Increase your Self-Care.

We can all do more to take better care of ourselves. By practicing self-care more often, you will become a stronger support to those around you, particularly in times of sadness or distress. There’s more on self-care in a previous blog post.

Tip Two: Build a web of resources.

We’re not all experts on everything. So find others out there. Whether you’re joining support groups, counselling or meeting likeminded people at events or classes.

Tip Three: Focus on choosing responsibilities

It’s a fact that you can’t do it all. So decide what you will and won’t be responsible for. And when you take on a challenge, give yourself a time limit and protect the time, which you’ve put aside for your wellbeing.

Want to learn more?

Get your respect back today and try setting some good boundaries. If you’d like to talk through boundary setting with me, then please book your free healing discover session with me today.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How To Find Courage After Trauma

For any major transformation, we must find courage. And for trauma survivors, we may need to find the courage within us first.

Courage exists in each and every one of us, and here’s how to find it…

What’s done is done. And all too often, we are told to look to the future and forget about the past. For trauma survivors though, it is far easy said than done.

Ironically, it sometimes seems as though the past is in the present. Everyday it creeps into our daily routine and becomes a barrier to our happiness and safety. We seek ways of coping and can often feel we’re fighting our battle alone. The truth is, we do have a choice to make. We can choose courage. And courage is the difference between continued sadness and creating heaven wherever we are in life. You may feel that it’s a choice that doesn’t exist but believe me - it’s there.

Finding the courage

All transformation in life takes courage, and overcoming trauma is no different. Courage resides within your body. So to find it, take a deep breath and feel where it resides. Can you feel it? If so, magical! If not, keep breathing deeper and deeper, and focus on it. When you feel it, this is where you gather the energy and belief to build exactly what you desire in life.

After trauma, we can sometimes feel disconnected. In moments like this, take time out to be quiet and find the courage from that spot within you, and notice what it feels like. It is this energy within that helps you take one step further to moving beyond trauma and creating heaven in your world.

I really hope this post as helped you believe in the power of courage. To take it further and to continue on your journey to healing, reach out to me and arrange a free call with me.

Jump on a 30-minute complimentary coaching session.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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Do you live life deliberately and purposefully?

Do you live life deliberately and purposefully?

“Why are you on this planet?”

One of the most asked and discussed questions all over the world. Here are the three reasons I believe we’re here:

…to create
…to experience
…to love

And when we put the focus on our own lives, and open our heart to taking inspired actions, our lives are transformed in the most magical of ways.

What does it mean to live purposefully?

When we live life purposefully, happiness and joy expands without limits. We follow that strong, powerful and authentic feeling even when the purpose is unclear - simply because, it feels so good!

Not only this, but we step on a journey of living life deliberately and purposefully with real intention and care for our actions. We’re focused, connected and engaged in creating a cherished life that is full of consciousness of the nature and effects of it -  it is filled with the beauty of authenticity.

It’s important to remember that others may resist our improved mindset and newfound path, or we may feel a bit of fear. Don’t let this stop you. After all, feeling fear means you’re doing something really, really brave. Continue with courage and perseverance on your journey to inner peace.

Jump on a 30-minute complimentary coaching session with me and I’ll share with you the 3 key things to living the life you want. Let me guide you on a journey to happiness and inner peace.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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4 Ways To Align Passion To Purpose

To identify our purpose, we must first find our passion.

Here is how to discover our passion and the 4 ways to aligning it with our purpose.

You’re ready for change. So in order to start healing we must understand the difference between your passion and your purpose. By doing so, we have a greater opportunity to live happier, healthier and start living an authentic life of calmness, control and full of love for ourselves and others.

How to find your purpose

When I started having conversations with other trauma survivors, I quickly learned that my purpose was to help them create heaven in their lives, just as I’d done. Helping others gave me most gratification and every day, I lend an ear and lovingly support those who want to heal. This was my passion… and thus, my purpose.

So when you’re searching for your purpose, ask yourself: what is your passion? When you’ve got this, work towards it and before you know it, you’ll have found your purpose in life.

How to align your passion to purpose

1.     Meditate: Start the day with morning meditation: Who are you helping? What will your efforts do to help? This is a sure-fire way to give your morning a running start.

2.     Visualize: See it. What does it look like when you’re having the impact you desire? What does it feel like? In doing this, allow the feeling of confidence to rush through you.

3.     Plan: Only you are responsible for your purpose, so plan ahead! Write down your inspired actions for the day and take care of your mind and body to help you achieve great things.

4.     Believe: To achieve it, you must believe it to be possible. So encourage yourself always, and express gratitude for your efforts.

Want to talk more?

Hopefully now you’ve learned a little more about how to align your passion to your purpose. I’d love to hear your story, so feel free to book your complimentary 30-minute coaching session with me. I look forward to speaking with you.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How To Find Courage After Trauma

Finding courage isn’t easy when you’re a trauma survivor.Here’s a short blog, which includes an exercise you can do when you next need to find courage within you.

After trauma, we can feel disconnected. In times of disconnection, we can be left feeling without courage and faith. In a previous blog, I covered how to find faith in such difficult times. And in this short blog, we take a look at courage.

Courage is a choice. And, more importantly, it’s your choice.

How to Find it

We must first learn where courage resides in our body. So, take a long deep breath and physically feel where courage resides in your body. Got it? Amazing. Not got it? Keep taking deep breaths and I promise you will find it. It’s in this spot where you gather the positive energy and belief to build a life you desire.

When you next feel disconnected, take time out to be quiet and return to this exercise. Take a deep breath and bring the courage forward from that spot within you. Identify it. Use it. And feel it. It’s this energy within that helps you take one step further to moving beyond trauma and creating heaven in your world.

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Reach out to me to talk more or book your free 30-minute strategy call to get started on your road to a cherished life, full of faith and courage.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How To Find Faith After Trauma

For trauma survivors, discovering (or rediscovering) faith is a stepping stone to our transformation.In this blog, we look at why…

For trauma survivors, it’s almost certain to have experienced betrayal in our lives. When we are let down by others, our faith in others and ourselves are often broken. It’s how we react that determines our ability to recover and find inner peace afterwards. The learning here, is to remember that:

‘We have the power to control how we act’

When something bad happens to children, you’ll often find that the parents put up walls and react, rather than take action. They seek retribution. When really, they should be focusing on taking care of their child and focus on repairing the damage. This is NO different to how we should treat ourselves post-trauma. Let’s not put up walls, nor seek retribution to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Let’s look internally, repair the damage and have faith that the future is in our hands. Wonderful thought, right?

So how do we do it?

ALWAYS remember that there is a power greater than ourselves, who is always there for us, through thick and thin. Plus, it’s a power that’s always available as our source of cherished comfort, guidance and inner peace.

In times of need, reach out to your Higher Power.

“I need your help, your wisdom, your insight.”

Keep faith that your questions will be answered and DO NOT let fear pollute your thoughts to limited thinking. When we feel we’ve been let down, or people have disappointed us, let’s learn to trust. Don’t get me wrong, this is sometimes easier said than done. To be true to yourself and your values, learn not to put up walls and dread it happening again, and instead take an inspired action, where we focus externally rather than internally.

Welcome connection into your life

By opening your heart and reaching out, you’ll keep connected. So speak with me today or book your free 30-minute strategy call to get started on your road to inner peace.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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5 Ways To Get 'Unstuck'

Do you ever feel stuck? It’s a challenge so many trauma survivors have.

Let’s learn why we feel this way and the 5 ways we can get ‘unstuck’.

When do we feel stuck?

Life is not a story that’s already written. The truth is, we are of course one of the writers of our story, but it’s not just our behavior and decisions that impact it. As you well know, life doesn’t always stick to our plans; these are often changed in some way and this can be both good and bad. Sometimes this can make us feel we have nowhere to go, and we feel stuck and worry that unrealized plans mean that we have failed. We can often feel helpless and fear that we are defined by an event or circumstance in our lives, and simply cannot see ANY way of moving forward.

And we call it ‘feeling stuck’…

Feeling stuck is what it is. It’s a feeling. Most commonly speaking, feeling stuck doesn’t mean you physically cannot move, right? Being ‘stuck’ (or more accurately ‘feeling stuck’) can be a mental, emotional or physical experience – or a mixture of the three!

But what makes us feel stuck? Here are three reasons why:

1.     When we don’t know who we really are.

We can feel stuck when we’re not living an authentic life. It can often happen when we let others around us make our decisions and lead to feelings of powerlessness. And when you feel you’re out of control, that’s when you can feel trapped.

2.     When you don’t want to find out who you are

Explore who you are. Find out what is true to you. And be clear on your values. These will help you discover the real you inside, the ‘you’ who wants to live a cherished life, on your terms.

3.     When we live down to other peoples expectations

Do you often measure yourself against the expectations of others? Does this mean you’re doing things you simply don’t want to do? Behaving in ways that aren’t true to you? This is so common for trauma survivors. Being aware of this is a great place to start.

5 tips to not feeling stuck

  1. Be truthful: Always tell the truth

  2. Be honest: Let go of all excuses

  3. Be vulnerable: Expose the inner you

  4. Be open: Ask for help

  5. Be forgiving: Be open to forgive

If you want to talk this through a little more, then schedule a free 30-minute strategy call with me, Janine.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How To Love Unconditionally

Do you love unconditionally? Here’s a quick blog update all about how you can choose to live a conditional life while loving unconditionally…

How to Create Unconditional Love

Conditional and unconditional love will be something you’ll have heard of many times before. But learning to live a conditional life and learning to love unconditionally is something of great importance on your journey of transformation. So welcome unconditional love toward you.

How to Create Your Own Life

Know that everything you need to know will come your way, helping you gain clarity on what you want your life to look like, and what you want to change about your world. Not only this, but knowing what needs to change will also help you understand the pace and timings of your transformation to a love-filled life. Start appreciating the contrast wherever you go in life and you’ll begin purposefully creating your own life.

On This Day…

Do you often start your day with positive thoughts and feelings about love, when momentum was slow? Then as the day progressed you tended to love what was picked up purposefully and deliberately? As you build these positive feelings, the natural consequence of being focused on this energy is the creation of unconditional love; the most natural feelings generated internally from within, rather than externally.

You now need to feel the difference between being aligned and your Higher Power flowing through you, before looking to be aligned.

Find your balance to unconditional love by starting from the inside out.

What does this mean? Well, finding your balance simply takes practice first, shortly followed by feelings of unconditional love. You will feel it with everything you experience. Place your attention on what it is you desire, focus in, and then open your heart, and feel the feelings flow through you.

Always share your love unconditionally with those in your circle of influence, in profound ways. If you want to learn more about loving unconditionally, then reach out to me or book a free 30-minute consultation .


© 2019 Janine Naus

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Do You Have The Power To Change Your Thoughts?

Our thoughts can determine how we feel in any given moment. And when we learn how to control our thoughts, we then have the power to change how we feel…

Of course you do. We all do. Let me explain…

Your ability to ‘think’ is one of the most powerful tools you have in your catalog of abilities as a human being. Not only this, but it’s the essence of who we really are, and what makes you… well, you.

So many of us take the power of our thoughts for granted. We forget that thoughts aren’t fixed. They give us the freedom to change, at will, in any given moment.

So what’s the relevance of ‘thinking’ for trauma survivors?

Changing Thoughts

Before opening my heart and deciding I was ready for change, I used to feel victimized. I would go through life feeling I was the victim of my circumstances.

As I began to work on my inner peace, my thoughts shifted. I soon realized I was the one who was creating victim-like thoughts. These would be negative thoughts reflecting on the circumstances I was experiencing. Honestly, it took me a while to realize how my thoughts played such a crucial role. My powerful victim-like thoughts resulted in a lot of needless struggle.

How to Shift to More Powerful Thoughts

Being still. I began to quiet my mind. I allowed my head to clear, and opened my heart to change. I started to create a new set of thoughts that helped me transform my life. Sure, to begin with, I could not believe it…

But it works.

As soon as my thinking changed, so did the reality within my world.

Just remember, YOU have the power to change your mind, to see things more clearly, to make new choices and to create new ideas. I’d like to leave you with a quote:

“Once you become consciously aware of just how powerful your thoughts are, you will realize everything in your life is exactly how YOU allow it to be.” ~ Melanie Moushigian Koulouris

You see, when you start believing that you control your thoughts, you can start building a happier, love-filled life. To talk more about the power of your thoughts, then get in touch with me today or book a free consultation with me, your friend, Janine.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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Why Is Self-Care So Important?

Why is self-care so important on our journey of overcoming trauma? Find out the importance of taking care of yourself and how self-care isn’t at all selfish…

What Is Self-Care?

For trauma survivors, we must take the time our mind, body and soul calls out for.

When you’re ready to transform your world and create heaven in your life, you’re committed to leading yourself to a place of calmness, clarity and heaven. And how well you care for yourself along the way is determined by your health and wellbeing, otherwise known as self-care.

You know what you need to do to feel good. But are you making it a priority to do those things, or make the changes you know you need to? Or do you find yourself feeling ‘selfish’ when it comes to self-care?

We are all our own healers and until we take self-care seriously, we’re unable to take care of others. Recall the flight attendant briefing the passengers with a safety warning before every flight:

Put the oxygen mask on yourself first – then you can help others.”

 … Such a great metaphor for self-care!

As women it is our nature to take care of others, to be selfless, to give.  Which means when it’s time to look out for ourselves, we all too often forget. In fact, it is absolutely necessary to learn to care for yourself when healing from trauma.

How To Put Yourself First

When you are in your flow, you’re in your ‘now’ moment, your authenticity. This happens when you put yourself first, activating energies of self-love, self-appreciation and honoring yourself.  The result is that the Law of Attraction will bring you things that match those energies.

The Lesson here: Feel love and appreciation for yourself. Feel authentic.

Remember that giving yourself time to self-care isn’t selfish. Only you can make sure you’re looking after yourself, so do it often and do it with limitless love. You are amazing.

To learn more about self-care and to get an actionable self-care plan, get in touch with me today to book your 30-minute free strategy session.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How to Discover Desire

Our intent unlocks the power to grasp every opportunity and desire. So let’s explore what our desires are and how we can achieve them.

What is the ‘Divine’?

What is the ‘Divine’ and what does it mean on our journey to overcoming trauma? Well firstly, the definition of the ‘Divine’ is the God, Goddess, Spirit, Universe or whatever Higher Power or Supreme Being you align yourself to.

Take a deep breath and say:

“I am a unique manifestation of the Divine”

Take a second to repeat the above.

What is it you desire? This is your intention. And with intent, you have EVERY opportunity and possibility to accomplish all that you desire. Your journey is a journey of allowing. You’re allowing yourself to live a fuller, happier life and witnessing your becoming, your transformation. So throughout the journey to creating heaven in your life remember, you have the power to achieve it – it is in your hands.

What Do You Desire?

What do you want for your life? What is your end goal? These are questions of awareness we must ask ourselves to understand our true desires.

So allow yourself to feel empowered. Know that you have the ability to manifest WHATEVER your heart desires. You have a force that provides you with great wisdom to achieve it, and you possess it. It’s the profound feeling in your heart that you get when you reach out to your life desires.

The power within you exists, even if your senses tell you differently. Dream what it is you want and dream BIG, acting as if it’s already arrived. Think about what it is you desire; that true energy behind that thought brings into being what it is you desire. Let your Supreme Being know what you truly desire. You recognize that whatever it is you are thinking about, your Supreme Being gives to you—whether you are intentionally thinking of it or not.

How to Discover Your Desire

You know exactly what it is you want in life. You feel your life is overflowing with things that matter to you most. You listen to your intuition. You are perfect love. You are connected to your personal power. Your inward journey can be a powerful experience… STOP. Take a breath. Be still. Find your center for inspiration.

Remember that what you picture or imagine right now, will not necessarily feel powerful until you experience it and until you engage your energy with the value of achieving it. Not only this, the power of your thoughts can be balanced or unbalanced to what you desire and is based on how you feel right here, right now. It’s your emotional response to that thought that makes you feel good about that value; when it manifests within your body, witnessing it, and experiencing it. You draw the thoughts you need so you can experience the values where your energy is focused.

To talk more about what it is you desire and how to enable your power to achieve it, then book a free 30-minute coaching call with me, Janine Naus, today!.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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How to Create Heaven Wherever You Are

Sometimes decision-making can be a dreaded part of life. It can confuse us and often lead us to making the worst decisions. So, how can we learn to make better decisions?

What is Creating Heaven Wherever I Am?

Creating Heaven Wherever I Am. It’s something I talk about a lot. So, let me explain what I mean, so that you too can create heaven in your life.

To create is to make something happen. To create heaven is to start healing and learn ways to feel happier, healthier and lead an authentic life full of love, calmness and meaningful relationships. These are things you can ‘make happen’ yourself.  You have the power.

You can create the life you want. And you have the power to create anything you desire. I create heaven wherever I am, and you can do just the same. Remember, the ‘I Am’ is the healing power within you. And I’m here to help you see the endless possibilities you can create.

You can create a new dream. You can create new values. New beliefs. There really are no limits to your power to heal and transform your life. You have the power to open your heart and build a truly cherished life from this day forward.

You're doing great...

By continuing your journey to creating heaven wherever you are, you're taking the inspired actions needed. So give yourself a big hug because you’re doing great.

Continue to affirm that you are the 'I Am' power.  And you're asking the power within you to open doors to infinite possibilities life has before you.

It’s as if you are ushering in a breath of fresh air… breathing in the “I” and breathing out the “Am.”

You’ve awoken to the breath to reach the deepest realities of life, and reach the highest states of consciousness. You are on the path to connect with your essence, your core, your soul and your heart.

Your source energy and great wisdom within are allowing you to experience a profound feeling in your heart. You’ve accepted the great mystery that you’re an individuation of the higher power or whatever Supreme Being you align yourself to. You are ready for transformation. And most of all, you are ready to heal.

Feel blessed that you’re now aware to this power within you, and feel empowered that you are the creator of heaven in your life, wherever you are.

Build your plan to creating heaven in your life with me, by scheduling a free 30-minute coaching call or contact ask me questions today. I’m here to support you in any way I can on your journey, always.decision-making.


© 2019 Janine Naus

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