Today we take a close look at the feeling of fear. We all experience it, but we don't often address or talk about it. Why? Because it makes us dread something we may (or may not!) experience in the future. Too often, we are frozen and hold our fears as if it's happening right here, right now. Fear makes us anxious, upset and concerned; and it is one of the most common barriers to creating heaven...
Let's dig a bit deeper into the these four questions:
Have I surrendered?
What does it mean to surrender? To surrender means to give up control to an authority. In regard to fear, surrendering would mean that you have given in to the fear. You have kicked through your walls that have made you worry and panic.
Have I surrendered enough?
How do you know if you have surrendered enough? Can you picture yourself waving the white flag at fear? Surrendering enough means that you will no longer find yourself getting anxious, upset, or worried over a fear. Enough means that you acknowledged your fear and let it go -- because you now know that it is not real. It is just a tiny part of who you are -- it is not the whole package.
When you are able to find comfort in the face of fear, then you know you have surrendered enough.
Is there any other way I can transform my fear?
You always have the power to transform your fear. You are in control. You can let it grip you and hold you hostage in a moment or you can face it and know that it is just a feeling -- it is not reality. Fears are the "what ifs" that we have been taught through the experiences in our life. We are expecting something terrible to happen when it may actually never happen.
If you don’t think it, then you will never have to fear it.
Are you coming from love, or coming from fear?
How do you react to certain situations? When faced with a situation that encompass a fear that is a part of you, how you react will determine if you are coming from love or fear.
Coming from fear means that you will find yourself getting worked up. Your adrenaline increases and you are faced with a fight or flight scenario. Your may get anxious, you may panic, you may start to feel as if you have been completely consumed by your fear.
However, if you are coming from love, you will smile as you notice the fear. You accept that it is a part of you. But, because you have surrendered control, you know that it is there, but you aren't afraid. You embrace your fear. You have found peace in overcoming your fear.
Fear is not something we are born with -- it is something we are taught. It is a learned behavior that makes us who we are. We can either choose to accept it and live or we can choose to succumb to its misery. The choice is yours!
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~ Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"
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