Finding authentic safety

Have you ever been confused about how you feel? This is very common for any woman who has suffered trauma in their life. When we were born, our inner, most authentic feelings guided us on our journey. We felt it all. As time goes on, others around you offer their opinions, which at times may be negative, demoralizing or possibly destructive.

They’re just opinions, right?

When we are young, we take every opinion personally. After all, how would we know differently? We’re unable to decipher what are simply opinions and as a result, we disconnect from our internal, authentic guidance. These opinions of others we take as gospel, and they break us down until we feel unsafe. We believe we’re wrong because we don’t fit in and begin chasing an ideal existence that just isn’t true to us. To feel unsafe in our internal guidance system, we are not being caring to ourselves. This has an indirect effect to our healing process and our authentic inner voice.

How to feel authentic safety

All of us have every right to simply ‘being’. After all, we are all sacred beings, who sometimes forget to just ‘be’. It’s time to wave goodbye to feelings of powerlessness, to create yourself a safe container and to feel all of your emotions securely. This really is a crucial step into creating a blissful, more cherished life.

Let’s start feeling again. To help you feel a state of authentic safety, follow these steps:

  1. Close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths: feel comfortable.

  2. As you inhale, be fully aware of what is beneath you: feel supported.

  3. Expand that awareness to the ground beneath that (if you’re not already sitting on the ground): feel present.

  4. Imagine Mother Earth. You are united deeply with her: feel connected.

  5. As you exhale, let yourself feel the support of what supports you: feel protected.

  6. Take a few moments to focus on your breathing and your physical sensations of everything supporting your body: feel aware.

  7. Focus on your heart. Notice your physical and emotional sensations. Is it full or empty? Is it heavy or light? Does it feel separate, or is it connected? Notice your heart without judgment; simply be aware of what you are, and what you’re experiencing: feel authentic.

Practice this daily, or more often if needed. Don’t forget to share your experiences with others below, or contact me today to find out how I can help you.