Do You Have The Power To Change Your Thoughts?

Of course you do. We all do. Let me explain…

Your ability to ‘think’ is one of the most powerful tools you have in your catalog of abilities as a human being. Not only this, but it’s the essence of who we really are, and what makes you… well, you.

So many of us take the power of our thoughts for granted. We forget that thoughts aren’t fixed. They give us the freedom to change, at will, in any given moment.

So what’s the relevance of ‘thinking’ for trauma survivors?

Changing Thoughts

Before opening my heart and deciding I was ready for change, I used to feel victimized. I would go through life feeling I was the victim of my circumstances.

As I began to work on my inner peace, my thoughts shifted. I soon realized I was the one who was creating victim-like thoughts. These would be negative thoughts reflecting on the circumstances I was experiencing. Honestly, it took me a while to realize how my thoughts played such a crucial role. My powerful victim-like thoughts resulted in a lot of needless struggle.

How to Shift to More Powerful Thoughts

Being still. I began to quiet my mind. I allowed my head to clear, and opened my heart to change. I started to create a new set of thoughts that helped me transform my life. Sure, to begin with, I could not believe it…

But it works.

As soon as my thinking changed, so did the reality within my world.

Just remember, YOU have the power to change your mind, to see things more clearly, to make new choices and to create new ideas. I’d like to leave you with a quote:

“Once you become consciously aware of just how powerful your thoughts are, you will realize everything in your life is exactly how YOU allow it to be.” ~ Melanie Moushigian Koulouris

You see, when you start believing that you control your thoughts, you can start building a happier, love-filled life. To talk more about the power of your thoughts, then get in touch with me today or book a free consultation with me, your friend, Janine.

© 2019 Janine Naus

Why Is Self-Care So Important?

What Is Self-Care?

For trauma survivors, we must take the time our mind, body and soul calls out for.

When you’re ready to transform your world and create heaven in your life, you’re committed to leading yourself to a place of calmness, clarity and heaven. And how well you care for yourself along the way is determined by your health and wellbeing, otherwise known as self-care.

You know what you need to do to feel good. But are you making it a priority to do those things, or make the changes you know you need to? Or do you find yourself feeling ‘selfish’ when it comes to self-care?

We are all our own healers and until we take self-care seriously, we’re unable to take care of others. Recall the flight attendant briefing the passengers with a safety warning before every flight:

“Put the oxygen mask on yourself first – then you can help others.”

 … Such a great metaphor for self-care!

As women it is our nature to take care of others, to be selfless, to give.  Which means when it’s time to look out for ourselves, we all too often forget. In fact, it is absolutely necessary to learn to care for yourself when healing from trauma.

How To Put Yourself First

When you are in your flow, you’re in your ‘now’ moment, your authenticity. This happens when you put yourself first, activating energies of self-love, self-appreciation and honoring yourself.  The result is that the Law of Attraction will bring you things that match those energies.

The Lesson here: Feel love and appreciation for yourself. Feel authentic.

Remember that giving yourself time to self-care isn’t selfish. Only you can make sure you’re looking after yourself, so do it often and do it with limitless love. You are amazing.

To learn more about self-care and to get an actionable self-care plan, get in touch with me today to book your 30-minute free strategy session.

© 2019 Janine Naus

How to Discover Desire

What is the ‘Divine’?

What is the ‘Divine’ and what does it mean on our journey to overcoming trauma? Well firstly, the definition of the ‘Divine’ is the God, Goddess, Spirit, Universe or whatever Higher Power or Supreme Being you align yourself to.

Take a deep breath and say:

“I am a unique manifestation of the Divine”

Take a second to repeat the above.

What is it you desire? This is your intention. And with intent, you have EVERY opportunity and possibility to accomplish all that you desire. Your journey is a journey of allowing. You’re allowing yourself to live a fuller, happier life and witnessing your becoming, your transformation. So throughout the journey to creating heaven in your life remember, you have the power to achieve it – it is in your hands.

What Do You Desire?

What do you want for your life? What is your end goal? These are questions of awareness we must ask ourselves to understand our true desires.

So allow yourself to feel empowered. Know that you have the ability to manifest WHATEVER your heart desires. You have a force that provides you with great wisdom to achieve it, and you possess it. It’s the profound feeling in your heart that you get when you reach out to your life desires.

The power within you exists, even if your senses tell you differently. Dream what it is you want and dream BIG, acting as if it’s already arrived. Think about what it is you desire; that true energy behind that thought brings into being what it is you desire. Let your Supreme Being know what you truly desire. You recognize that whatever it is you are thinking about, your Supreme Being gives to you—whether you are intentionally thinking of it or not.

How to Discover Your Desire

You know exactly what it is you want in life. You feel your life is overflowing with things that matter to you most. You listen to your intuition. You are perfect love. You are connected to your personal power. Your inward journey can be a powerful experience… STOP. Take a breath. Be still. Find your center for inspiration.

Remember that what you picture or imagine right now, will not necessarily feel powerful until you experience it and until you engage your energy with the value of achieving it. Not only this, the power of your thoughts can be balanced or unbalanced to what you desire and is based on how you feel right here, right now. It’s your emotional response to that thought that makes you feel good about that value; when it manifests within your body, witnessing it, and experiencing it. You draw the thoughts you need so you can experience the values where your energy is focused.

To talk more about what it is you desire and how to enable your power to achieve it, then book a free 30-minute coaching call with me, Janine Naus, today!.

© 2019 Janine Naus

How to Create Heaven Wherever You Are

What is Creating Heaven Wherever I Am?

Creating Heaven Wherever I Am. It’s something I talk about a lot. So, let me explain what I mean, so that you too can create heaven in your life.

To create is to make something happen. To create heaven is to start healing and learn ways to feel happier, healthier and lead an authentic life full of love, calmness and meaningful relationships. These are things you can ‘make happen’ yourself.  You have the power.

You can create the life you want. And you have the power to create anything you desire. I create heaven wherever I am, and you can do just the same. Remember, the ‘I Am’ is the healing power within you. And I’m here to help you see the endless possibilities you can create.

You can create a new dream. You can create new values. New beliefs. There really are no limits to your power to heal and transform your life. You have the power to open your heart and build a truly cherished life from this day forward.

You're doing great...

By continuing your journey to creating heaven wherever you are, you're taking the inspired actions needed. So give yourself a big hug because you’re doing great.

Continue to affirm that you are the 'I Am' power.  And you're asking the power within you to open doors to infinite possibilities life has before you.

It’s as if you are ushering in a breath of fresh air… breathing in the “I” and breathing out the “Am.”

You’ve awoken to the breath to reach the deepest realities of life, and reach the highest states of consciousness. You are on the path to connect with your essence, your core, your soul and your heart.

Your source energy and great wisdom within are allowing you to experience a profound feeling in your heart. You’ve accepted the great mystery that you’re an individuation of the higher power or whatever Supreme Being you align yourself to. You are ready for transformation. And most of all, you are ready to heal.

Feel blessed that you’re now aware to this power within you, and feel empowered that you are the creator of heaven in your life, wherever you are.

Build your plan to creating heaven in your life with me, by scheduling a free 30-minute coaching call or contact ask me questions today. I’m here to support you in any way I can on your journey, always.decision-making.

© 2019 Janine Naus

How to Make Better Decisions

Do you ever have difficulty making decisions?

This is surprisingly common in us all. So many of us find making decisions a real challenge throughout our lives. But when you also suffer from trauma, it can often seem extremely difficult.

With the limited amount of time we have available in our increasingly busy lives, it’s no wonder it’s difficult to make decisions from time to time. In a world where rushing around and being busy is the norm, we have to find strategies to help us make decisions, whether consciously or subconsciously.

Think of school tests or exams. So many decision distractors. Decision distractors are things like the multiple-choice responses you get to choose from. The incorrect ones are sometimes plausible, but incorrect.

Here are some possible decision distractors you may be familiar with:

·       Spending a lot of time in our head, mulling over lots of information, running dialog of the pros and cons

·       Experiencing past or present stress, anxiety or overwhelm

·       Feeling denied of certain feelings, questioning your gut feeling

·       Self-doubt, fear, and thought processes making it difficult to split the past and the ‘gut feeling’ present

·       Seeking advice from your well-meaning friends and family who base their advice on their beliefs, ideas and their responsibility and risk appetite

Have you experienced any of the above decision distractors?

Introducing the Left Side

I’m so pleased to share that there is a solution you can implement when in this situation. When we’re caught in our mind - the formless continuum that helps us perceive and understand things - we sometimes forget we can tap into another part of our mind. We can choose to explore a part of the mind that can actually support us with making those decisions, on our own. This is the left side.

When a decision is placed in front of you and a choice needs to be made, your brain will scan historic memories and experiences, helping you make the best possible decision. You’ll hear whispers from your intuition – the thoughts you have which may not make rational sense. It can often feel like and be described as a ‘gut feeling’. There will be reasons why your intuitive brain will make the decisions they make, but they’ll often be overruled by the more rational side of the brain.

Picture this. You have a dinner planned with friends on the weekend. Your intuitive thoughts are filled with excitement, as you’ve not seen them for a while and have so much to catch up on. Suddenly, the rational side of your brain gets involved. It starts thinking about what could go wrong; what someone might say to you and replays an embarrassing moment that happened one time, many years ago. After much back and forth, you decide to ‘go with your instinct’ and attend the event, only to have the best dinner with friends you’ve ever had. This, my friends, is the power of intuition.

You’re ready for change

You have the opportunity to make decisions on something you’re passionate about, leaving you feel euphoric every day and helping you to lead a more authentic life on your terms. Can you feel the power?

Learning to make good decisions is instrumental to living a life that’s happier and healthier.

So, how do I do it?

Just knowing the difference between our rational and intuitive thought patterns is the most important part. And now you know it – amazing!

So when you have any decision to make (big or small), get out of your head and into your body.  Tap into your Higher Self, and embrace your intuition for clearer guidance - through your Heart.

As it’s in your heart is where your intuition is…

It’s one of my favorite topics and there are so many exercises we can do together to improve your decision-making. So, book on a free 30-minute consultation with me, Janine, or contact me with any questions you have.

© 2019 Janine Naus

Do You Self-Reflect?

How to Self-Reflect

In a world that seems to get busier and busier, it can be a challenge finding the time to focus on self-reflection. Before we talk about a fantastic way of doing this, I have to emphasize that self-reflection is a crucial tool you must learn, practice and create protected time for.

If all you have done is read the paragraph above, you’re on your journey to creating heaven in your life. So, wherever you are on your path, appreciate this truly wonderful journey to finding inner peace. So, take a second right now, and congratulate yourself on the steps you’ve already taken to building a cherished, authentic life. Well done you. You’re doing great.

So, how do we self-reflect?

My favorite way to self reflect is as simple as it is enjoyable. And it comes in the form of a short meditation.

So, sit in a quiet place and say the phrases below. Take your time and practice this, not everyone feels it first time round. As you must always be on your healing journey, be open-minded and welcoming. The more you embrace this practice, the more you will achieve.

Focus on your breath. Say to yourself “I” as you breathe in, and “Am” as you breathe out.

I am great!
I am the light of your soul!
I am beautiful!
I am bountiful!
I am bliss!
I am love!

I affirm “I Am the limitless power within for all of my healing and transformation.  I Am love.”

See, wasn’t that easy? Try and do this as often as possible. You’ll notice the more you practice it, the more blissfulness you will feel.

Want to learn more?

Start a conversation with me today in a free consultation and we can explore more ways for you to move forward on your path to inner peace.

© 2018 Janine Naus

What Are Your Limiting Beliefs?

Where do our beliefs come from?

All of our views and decisions in life are governed by our beliefs. Beliefs are not always something we choose, but are created on a much more subconscious level. When we’re younger, our loved ones, friends, religious leaders and teachers passed on their beliefs to us and (sometimes unfortunately), a substantial amount of those beliefs are engrained into our psyche.

How to bridge beliefs…

Simply put, we replace old beliefs with new ones. We need to focus on beliefs that make us feel good and give them real airtime in our world. Create a more cherished, fuller life by shifting your attention to new, upbeat and optimistic beliefs and you’ll notice those old beliefs (that you never even chose in the first place!) will drift away and are soon forgotten.

There is no need to dig out old beliefs… just replace them with new beliefs.

How do we de-construct belief systems that are limiting us?

Think of a belief that limits you. And if you’re not sure of one, then to identify it, think of a belief you have that makes you feel negative emotion – sadness, anger or frustration. The great thing about bridging beliefs is that we don’t need to re-live the negative emotion. If we focus too hard on the limiting belief, we’re giving it the attention it needs to keep having such a powerful impact on us. So to do this best, we don’t need to concentrate on only ‘deactivating’ limiting beliefs, but actually focus our approach on activating new beliefs. And ironically, this is how we succeed at deactivating the old limiting beliefs.

Make sense? If you’re having trouble with limiting beliefs or want to take a deeper dive into how you can make belief transformation in your life, then please reach out to me for a free consultation. We need to give less (or no!) airtime to limiting beliefs and all the airtime to beliefs which will help us heal and create a happier, healthier way of life.

Focus on what you want and not what you don’t want, and you’re halfway there.

Here’s another great article to read about this same topic: Trapped by your Mind? Learn This Five Step Process for Releasing Limiting Beliefs.

© 2018 Janine Naus

How Can Our Choices Create the Right Experiences?

How choices can create right experiences

Every day in life, we face choices, some big - some small. Are you someone who struggles making decisions? Do you find yourself worrying about the outcome of your decision-making?

When you make choice with fear, you will create a fear-based experience for yourself. In each one of us, we have to balance the experience when making choices, as we have an infinite number of imbalanced outcomes to choose from. As women who suffer with trauma, we can often feel that the safest thing to do is stay clear of making decisions, as we are frightened of the consequences. We can find ourselves making choices from a place of fight or flight mode; often petrified of the unknown consequences.

This is why some of us allow others to make choices for us – I know I used to! When they make a choice and it’s imbalanced – we often blame the person. If we allow others to continuing making our choices for us, we are left feeling powerless over the choices we have to make in our life.

Fear-Based Choices

To help us understand this a little more, think of a time when you’ve made a fear-based decision – this can be an instant decision for survival, or a longer-term decision you have made. Why did you make the choice you did? Obvious reasons to make fear-based decisions would be potential death, starvation or threat to your body. There are so many reasons you may opt for a fear-based decision – do any of these sound like your thoughts when making decisions?

·       I am scared of being on my own

·       What if I fail?

·       I am fearful not being good enough

·       Nobody will love me

·       I won’t be accepted

How to manifest your thoughts

You can choose to fill your body with the feeling of love when making choices, replacing the fear-based feeling. Choose to allow love as your focus and draw yourself the thoughts required to allow you to experience love in the future. Here are the three golden rules to manifesting your thoughts when decision-making:

1.    Open it – open your mind and authentic thoughts within you

2.    Look at it – observe the thought as if from a distance

3.    Experience it – live the thought through and be aware of how it makes you feel

If you want a helping hand to practicing better decision making, then schedule a free consultation with me today, and we’ll get you working towards a cherished life you’ve always dreamed of, which is filled with positive consequences as a result of your love-based decision-making.

Speaking of fear: every woman who has suffered trauma in their life has faced feelings of fear, here are 4 questions to ask yourself in a fear-fueled moment, to help you conquer fear.

© 2018 Janine Naus

How to Build a Stress-Free Life

What stress does to our body?

Stress impacts every organ of our precious body. When we feel stressed, our body releases a surge of adrenaline (similar to a flight/fright response), which speeds up our breathing. We start talking faster, taking shallower breaths from our chest, rather than slow, deeper abdominal breathing that we take when we’re calm. And as we’re taking in more and more oxygen, our heart rate and blood flow begins to accelerate! Think of the time you last felt stressed, or if you feel stressed over the next few days, become aware of your breathing – you’ll see what I mean…

Don’t get me wrong, speeding up our breath and heart rate is healthy, in small doses. If we’re constantly triggering flight/fright mode from chronic stress, the habit of shallow chest breathing can fall into everyday life, even when the stress may be over.

When we were born, we have high levels of resilience to our window of tolerance. In your earliest memory, you’ll notice you never found yourself feeling - what we now know as - stress. As trauma and extreme overwhelm beds in, we lose our ability of ‘riding the wave’ and disconnect further away from our inner peace.

The guide to a stress-free life

Did you know that even when you set yourself the toughest goals, you could achieve them without stress or self-doubt? Living a purposeful life does not mean compromising on your stress levels, and ultimately your health. Feelings of stress are so often generated by a flight or fright response to a situation, so when we can manage this reactive feeling, we can control the impact it has on our body.

Try this: Open your mind and switch off the flight/fright response mode.

1. Breathe in for 4 seconds

2. Hold your breath for 7 seconds

3. Exhale for 8 seconds

4. Repeat until you feel calmer

Important:  There is no need to remove beliefs from your belief system, simply replace them with new beliefs.

I think I know what you’re thinking: How will you remember the above in stressful times? Well, here’s what I do. I have a notepad I always carry around with me and also have this saved in the ‘Notes’ app on my cell phone. In times of stress and overwhelm, I find a quiet space and find peace through this practice. If you ever find yourself feeling unsure of how you feel, then read my previous blog post, which has the perfect exercise to authentically feeling.

If your situations of stress or overwhelm are taking over your life, and want to speak to an empathetic ear, then contact me today As you will have read in my personal story, I have been there and have practiced what I now preach. I look forward to helping you move forward on your healing journey. 

© 2018 Janine Naus

3 Steps to Holding Space for Others

Whether you’re new to the art of ‘holding space’ or have been doing it for years, the impact is as powerful as ever before. Holding space for others can truly help them through difficult periods in their life and can be an important factor in their healing journey.

In a previous blog post, we discussed how we’re all sacred beings and explored how we can become disconnected to our authentic self. From time to time we forget to simply ‘be’. Here’s another way to learn to feel safe with your feelings and help you on your journey to creating heaven in your life.

Hold space for yourself and others

Through difficult and painful times, you should ALWAYS hold space for yourself (and others). It helps you dilute any pain and suffering you could be experiencing. Holding space demolishes the invisible walls that you feel are stopping you from continuing your journey to an authentic world of inner peace.

Always remember that you’re being held by a power greater than yourself. Not only this, I am also holding a space for you too – so imagine being held, imagine feeling supported.

Want to give it a try?

Here are three simple, yet incredibly effective techniques to learn to hold space for yourself or someone else:

1. Quiet your mind and when holding space for others, be actively listening to who you’re talking to

2. Be silent and be with each other

3. Physical touch (give them a big hug)

There you have it, it’s that easy. You can now help bring healing through this beautiful practice. For those of you wanting to take a deeper dive into the art of holding space, Christina Lopes created a fantastic video I would recommend to you.

Discover how you can learn to hold space for others around you, and as a result become more aware of your fabulous feelings and super sensations in the here and now. To speak with me about how you can create heaven in your life, contact me today today and set up a complimentary 30-minute consultation.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

Do You Know How You Feel?

Finding authentic safety

Have you ever been confused about how you feel? This is very common for any woman who has suffered trauma in their life. When we were born, our inner, most authentic feelings guided us on our journey. We felt it all. As time goes on, others around you offer their opinions, which at times may be negative, demoralizing or possibly destructive.

They’re just opinions, right?

When we are young, we take every opinion personally. After all, how would we know differently? We’re unable to decipher what are simply opinions and as a result, we disconnect from our internal, authentic guidance. These opinions of others we take as gospel, and they break us down until we feel unsafe. We believe we’re wrong because we don’t fit in and begin chasing an ideal existence that just isn’t true to us. To feel unsafe in our internal guidance system, we are not being caring to ourselves. This has an indirect effect to our healing process and our authentic inner voice.

How to feel authentic safety

All of us have every right to simply ‘being’. After all, we are all sacred beings, who sometimes forget to just ‘be’. It’s time to wave goodbye to feelings of powerlessness, to create yourself a safe container and to feel all of your emotions securely. This really is a crucial step into creating a blissful, more cherished life.

Let’s start feeling again. To help you feel a state of authentic safety, follow these steps:

1. Close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths: feel comfortable.

2. As you inhale, be fully aware of what is beneath you: feel supported.

3. Expand that awareness to the ground beneath that (if you’re not already sitting on the ground): feel present.

4. Imagine Mother Earth. You are united deeply with her: feel connected.

5. As you exhale, let yourself feel the support of what supports you: feel protected.

6. Take a few moments to focus on your breathing and your physical sensations of everything supporting your body: feel aware.

7. Focus on your heart. Notice your physical and emotional sensations. Is it full or empty? Is it heavy or light? Does it feel separate, or is it connected? Notice your heart without judgment; simply be aware of what you are, and what you’re experiencing: feel authentic.

Practice this daily, or more often if needed. Don’t forget to share your experiences with others below, or contact me today to find out how I can help you.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

Feel Faith in Gratitude

“Thank you” is a phrase we hear all day, everyday. Whether for the gift of a wholesome meal, or from a complete stranger who opens the door for you, we give thanks for gestures big and small.

Feeling thankful is to feel grateful for something or someone. And when expressing gratitude for any experience in your life, you invite the Universe to give you more of what you want. Why? It’s simple. When you feel compassion, love and understanding from others, it brings gratitude to your heart. When you feel it, your attention is brought into the present moment – the here and now.

How to express gratitude

Are you unsure of what you should be grateful for? Or do you feel there’s not much to be thankful for?

It may feel this way, but you can choose to have faith in gratitude and it will help you find purpose and enjoy life to it’s fullest. “But how?” I hear you ask. Well, it’s very easy to start.

At the end of each day, take a few moments to focus on the blessings the day had to offer and encourage gratitude to experience deep levels of happiness, authenticity, fulfillment and wellbeing. Do as I do, and create a daily gratitude journal to note down who, or what has inspired you that day, and what has brought you happiness, peace and serenity.

Why express gratitude

Being grateful right now will result in so many positives, including:

• A renewed appreciation for the amount you have to be grateful for moving forward

• A happier, more present version of you, living in the moment with a greater flow of positive energy

If you’re still unsure of what you have to be grateful for, then ask yourself “what am I focused on?”. You may find you’re focused on things or circumstances you don’t want. And with this kind of focus, guess what you’ll be attracting? That’s right, more of what you don’t want. So shift your thoughts to something you do want; the things you do want to be grateful for.

Janine’s Top Tips

1.     Sit down each day and become grateful – practice gratitude by creating a gratitude journal. Asking yourself, what am I grateful for?

2.     Ask yourself what it is you’re focusing on? Is it things or circumstances you don’t want? Then shift your thoughts to something you do want.

3.     If you’re still finding it a challenge, then watch this video by Oprah, where she teaches you how to find and practice gratitude in your life.

Please share your experiences below, or to speak with me, Janine, directly, then contact me today.

And finally, give yourself a huge hug. You’re doing great.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

How To Rediscover your Inner Voice

Overcoming trauma requires a whole lot of strength, courage and willingness to learn. Along the journey, you will need to be compassionate with yourself, learn to trust and start building an authentic life.

To start building an authentic life, you must start with you and your own authenticity. When you were a baby, you had an inner voice, authentic to you, your natural self. From choosing to forgive to deciding who and when to trust, it is the thing that helps us make choices that ‘feel right’. When celebrated and nurtured correctly, our inner voice can be one of the most authentic, beautiful parts of our human existence.

When We Lose Our Inner Voice

When our inner voice is not nurtured correctly, more commonly through childhood, we tend to lose touch with it. Choices become harder, and even worse, don’t feel like our own. When those around us put us down over and over again, we start believing in what they have to say. With every pain we feel, we move further and further away from our authentic inner voice.

Getting Your Inner Voice Back!

There’s good news though. Once you’ve lost your inner voice, you can find it again. I had suffered the toughest of trauma, but found my authentic voice again. And now, everyday, I enjoy days filled with desire and purpose with a deep connection to my inner voice.

Like most practices in healing trauma, we must first start with acknowledging the pain that encouraged us to lose our inner voice. Instead of feeling and hurting from the pain, we must instead change the way we view it. Trauma and the pain we’ve suffered can be seen as a real learning, which helps us become who we are really meant to be.

So next time you’re hurt or down, ask yourself:

·       What did you learn from the pain?

·       Think about the position of whoever has inflicted this pain on you - is it more about their insecurities?

My top tip would be to do this in nature, somewhere that is still and quiet. Once you’re there, embrace your inner voice by saying out loud what’s troubling you. Once you’ve said it, simply wait, listen and feel what is true to you.

Your answer will come and it speaks to your truthful, authentic voice.

If you want to learn more about reconnecting with your inner voice then book a 30-minute free chat with me, Janine, by contacting me here.

And finally, give yourself a huge hug. You’re doing great.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

The Truth of Intuition

How do you make the biggest and most important decisions in your life? It’s a question we don’t actively ask ourselves, but let’s think about it for a second.

When we have a decision to make, or a question that needs answering, we often look outside of ourselves for answers. Why not start tapping into the most incredible and insightful resource we have? Introducing your intuition.

Do you hear, sense, feel or tune into who you are?

Our intuition (or subconscious mind) is a true gift that always provides the self-awareness we need when we’re confronted with those big decisions and important questions in life. It guides us to our best possible direction, and gives us the answer that is beyond doubt, what is true for you. And for those on a journey of overcoming trauma, it is an invaluable tool. On previous blog posts, I’ve shared how intuition can help you heal from trauma.                     

The energy of intuition

Your intuition is the energy source behind who you are and the direct connection to your authentic self. Listen to your inner voice and become aware that it’s influencing everything you do.

Connect with this energy by shifting out of your head and into a more intuitive mind-set, by asking yourself:

• What does your heart say?

• What do I feel here?

• What does my spirit or internal guidance say?

Listen to your intuitive voice

Your intuitive voice is spontaneous; it’s a feeling that comes from within for (what seems like) no real reason. You can start tapping into your intuition right away; it’s far easier than you’d think and is a truly spiritual and authentic experience.

But how do you know when you’re listening to your intuitive voice? Well, when you next hear it, don’t ignore it. Acknowledge it, say it out loud and you’ll remember it. And never ask if it’s right or wrong.

If you’re still unsure, then ask if it feels true to you? Your intuition is an energy that will open and expand - you will FEEL it. And if you don’t, it’s your head talking, and not your intuition.

Once you’ve started embracing your intuition, celebrate it, and praise yourself for an important connection you’ve made with your authentic self, the real YOU. Take pleasure in being informed with your heart. You are now present; you’re feeling, listening and responding. This is your heartbeat and your life force bringing you back home, to love.

If you want to learn more about the role your intuition plays on your journey to inner peace, then turn to me for guidance by contacting me today.

And finally, give yourself a huge hug. You’re doing great.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

How Compassion Can Change Your Life

What is compassion?

You may wonder why you find it so challenging to be self-compassionate. You may also find that treating yourself kindly from a place of love just doesn’t come natural to you. The trauma we’ve suffered is so commonly the cause of our inability to be compassionate, especially with ourselves.

Well, it’s time to change that.

Every one of us has the wisdom and ability to be self-compassionate. It’s a resource we need to help us accept painful emotions, so we can heal from our trauma and find divine inner peace. The greater our pain and suffering, the more we need compassion.

Being compassionate means to love, be kind to and accept yourself. It is a blessing on your journey to healing and creating heaven in your life. Every step of the way, you should be kind and caring with yourself, celebrating your wonderful progress.

The benefits of compassion

When you bring compassion to all of life, you’ll be enlightened by a shift in your thinking and wellbeing. You’ll step into a powerful emotion, to a state between being a human and our Higher Self. The energy of the feeling of compassion creates a two-way interaction. In other words, you begin to feel togetherness, rather than feelings of separation or isolation.

Being compassionate with yourself will bring harmony to the relationships you have with not only those around you, but with yourself – which is just as (if not, more!) important.

What’s beautiful about compassion is that you can choose to start feeling it right away. You can allow yourself to step into nature to connect with the earth and absorb the natural beauty that surrounds you.

Check out this 5-minute guided meditation for developing self-compassion. Let me know how you find the video, or ask me a question by contacting me.

And finally, give yourself a huge hug. You’re doing great.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

4 Questions to Overcome Your Fear

Every woman out there has faced feelings of fear in their lifetime, and sadly, this is even truer for women who have suffered trauma. Feeling scared or fearful isn’t something “normal” to talk about. We think if we suppress it, it may not exist – and that’s just not true.

What is it that you are scared of – responsibility? Death? Life? Love? Once you address it, you can transform it and then, you can transform your world forever.

We choose not to address it because it makes us feel anxious, upset and concerned. Naturally we don’t want to feel this way, but when we do, it can be a destroying blocker in our route to healing from trauma and creating heaven in our lives.

Remember that you’re a strong, powerful woman. See that those unwanted dark recesses that pop into our heads every so often, are only in our imagination – the unhelpful side of it.

I find it useful to define fear this way:

False.
Evidence.
Appearing.
Real.

Face the Fear

Fear is normal and is a familiar feeling to rest of the world. Accepting this as a first step will help you acknowledge that fear is a part of you. So embrace it and recognize that it is not useful to your awaiting journey; the journey to inner peace, self-love and a cherished life you deserve. View it from a place of witness and step through it and say a big YES to life.

Think about this: All of our life decisions, reactions and responses come from a place of fear or love.

How to Overcome Fear

Sometimes we give power to this barrier of fear, and it simply doesn’t deserve to hold you back. You’re on a pathway to beautiful transformation, and you have the power to decide how you experience the world around you.

To understand, witness and face feelings of fear next time, ask yourself these 4 questions:

1.     Have I surrendered?

2.     Have I surrendered enough?

3.     Is there any other way I can transform my fear?

4.     Are you coming from love, or coming from fear?

Remember: by transforming your fear you can transform your world forever.

Let me show you how. Start a conversation with me today and learn how to start your journey to creating heaven in your life – just as I did.

Are you yet to hear my story? Please note, it’s not for the faint hearted. Read it here.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

Mastering the Art of Meditation

What is meditation?

With the chaos of modern day life, it’s easy to feel stressed or overworked. These negative emotions can make us tired, unhappy and frustrated. But when we learn to open our heart to meditation we can overcome these negative emotions, and find inner peace and balance.

Once we master the art of meditation, we start being aware of, and having the power to control our own feelings; to have the strength to transform our mindset from a negative to a positive place.

For a practice that is thousands of years old, it’s only in recent years where we’ve seen a huge uplift in the number of people taking up meditation. Whether it’s by humming, breathing, singing, listening or dancing, people all over the world meditate in a number of different ways. Whatever way you choose to meditate, the sensation of being still and in the present-moment can be both powerful and exhilarating.

Why should you meditate?

For women tackling trauma, we can so often have multiple thoughts racing through our minds. And even worse, it’s all too common for the negative thoughts to overshadow any positivity. Check out my monkey-mind management article to understand more about how you can witness those thoughts and even label your mind’s characters (or minions as I like to call them). Differently though, meditation isn’t about witnessing your thoughts, but mindfully nudging them out of your head, so you can achieve a state of total stillness and tranquillity.

The aim is a transformation of awareness, which opens up potential for awakening and creativity. If you ever feel like you’re just not feeling yourself, then meditation will allow you to connect yourself to back to your source, to your unconditioned self.

How do you meditate?

It’s so important to find a practice of meditation that you can master. Because there are so many ways to meditate, and so many people who teach meditation, you have a variety of options. Practicing meditation is no big commitment. In the space of ten minutes you can be in a place of complete present-moment awareness.

I’d recommend starting with my favorite teacher – davidji.

Through guided meditations he has taught me how to move from an unhappy state to a happier, more mindful, version of me; a ‘me’ who has the power to make decisions and live life on my own terms. When you open your heart to meditation, you give your mind a special boost it needs to help you heal from trauma - from improving your intuition, to conserving compassion, to granting forgiveness.

Here is a great first video for beginners, as well as the more seasoned meditators out there:

https://youtu.be/wzjiwIQZr8Y

Have a question about the art of meditation? Or do you want to start a conversation about your situation, let me lend an ear. - get in touch today.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

Meet your Monkey Mind: The Experiment

Believe it or not, we all have a monkey mind. That’s right, even YOU have the mind of a monkey!

We have thousands upon thousands of thoughts each day, about similar and completely differentiating topics. This is especially true when we’re on the journey to overcoming trauma.

Picture this:

You’re walking down a busy street. A car passes by. You’ve forgot your umbrella. You’re now drenched. You run into a coffee shop. A customer stares you up and down…

That’s a whole lot of thoughts right there isn’t it? And in the space of seconds…

 Your mind is a monkey, swinging from branch to branch, from thought to thought.

Naming your monkey mind characters

My monkey mind has a host of characters, which come into play in various situations and times of the day. I call them my minions. More often than not, they bring negative mind chatter to my thoughts – which prove to be unhelpful and can be destructive.

Simply knowing this can help you a great deal. Because I’m now aware of the Monkey Mind and it’s capabilities, I run experiments to see what’s really going on up there. I choose a day where my minions will be active and really come to life. When I hear the negative mind chatter, I identify the character by the name of which I call them:

“Ah there’s Sad Sadie”

“Here’s Angry Anteater”

“Wait, here’s Joyful Janine”

Practicing this experiment isn’t easy. You must allow everything around you to happen, without thought or feeling. For me, I look around, witnessing the coming and going of the characters. I begin to notice thoughts appearing and disappearing, as it’s replaced by the next thought in the queue.

It’s fascinating what you witness and how the Monkey Mind chatter changes so quickly.

How to witness your Monkey Mind

To do this correctly, follow these three golden rules during the experiment:

1) Allow everything to just happen

2) Look at what goes on around you

3) Witness your thoughts coming and going

By the end of the experiment…

You’ll have learned a valuable technique, which you can use in all types of situations, including learning…

·      to witness, without thinking

·      to be aware of your being and the difference between thinking and witnessing

·      you cannot think and witness at the same time

The best thing about this experiment is that you can start right away. Run this experiment for a few hours today, or one day this week. Comment below to share your experiences of trying this. It may feel strange at first, but remember to heal you must open your mind, as well as your heart.

 “Thinking is a function of the mind. Witnessing is a nonfunction of the mind.” ~Taoshbuddha

Have a question about your Monkey Mind? Or do you want to start a conversation about your situation, let me lend an ear - get in touch today.

 
© 2018 Janine Naus

How to Grant Forgiveness

Before you read any further, take a moment to think about the word forgiveness. How does that word make you feel?

Strong?

Peaceful?

Angry?

Fearful?

Disgusted?

Weak?

If you have suffered trauma in your life, then you have likely been told you need to practice forgiveness at some point along your journey. If so, how did you react? Maybe you turned your back on the idea. Perhaps you even scowled at the thought. Or, maybe you just balled it all up inside and let the thought of granting forgiveness fuel your anger.

Believe it or not, forgiveness isn’t all that scary. In fact, the act of forgiveness can leave you with a sense of freedom that you have been searching for a long time to find.

Don’t fear forgiveness

Forgiveness is not easy. If it was, then forgiveness would be granted all the time without a second thought. Instead, it is complex and something most people dwell on at great length. Whether they believe that forgiveness isn’t deserved, hasn’t been earned, or the words just won’t come out – it rarely ever happens quickly.

Don’t fear forgiveness. It is hard to not fear something that we don’t think we are capable of. Consider climbing Mt. Everest, being thrown into a starring role on Broadway, or scoring a huge promotion at work. If you don’t have the confidence to face and conquer these tasks, you will find your knees shaking with fear.

Telling yourself you are going to forgive the person or persons who caused you so much pain and sorrow in your life may just be enough to send you running in the opposite direction.

Don’t let it.

It is about you

Your trauma may have left you with a destroyed sense of trust, love, self-worth, and so much more. When it comes from the hand of someone close to you, there is an even greater sense of betrayal that encompasses the pain.

Remember, the need for forgiveness is for yourself – not for the perpetrator. Forgiving someone is not saying that what he or she did is okay – and that you are over it. So, by granting forgiveness, you are not excusing the actions nor are you condoning them. Instead, you are healing yourself.

Forgiveness should not be feared, rather it should be viewed as a positive outcome that requires some strength and guts to obtain. But there is no set time-frame when you should forgive. And, taking longer than someone else is completely normal. Having difficulty finding the ability to even forgive at all is not uncommon, either.

Just know that once you take the step to forgive… your life will forever be changed.

The power of the phrase, I forgive you

Has anyone ever told you the phrase, I forgive you, for something you may have done, big or small? If so, you know how it made you feel on the receiving end.

But, did you know that the best part of that phrase – the part with the most power – comes from the person saying it?

Coming to a place in your life when you can finally forgive someone for the pain they caused you – and verbally speaking the phrase, “I forgive you,” - can leave you feeling an immense amount of peace. The weight that has been sitting on your shoulders for years will suddenly feel lighter – or may even disappear altogether. And all that anger and hurt and harbored feelings of ill will may slowly begin to be viewed through a different light.

I forgive you is a life-changing phrase that those who have experienced trauma need to find the ability to say. Maybe not now, not tomorrow, or even next year. But, one day.

Reach for forgiveness

Whatever your reaction to forgiveness, you need to reach for it. You are here because you are trying to overcome trauma and find a sense of peace, right?

Forgiveness is a crucial step in your journey.

You have felt the hurt and the pain. You have struggled through the emotions and the scars left behind by the trauma. And, you have slowly started to re-build a safety net around your life to give yourself the life you deserve. To feel fully free, however, you will need to let go – and forgive.

For yourself.

Trauma can be debilitating. And, the only person that can help you step above it is – you. Not your friend, not your family, and not your enemy. Only you. As you work through your journey of self-love, growth, and healing, you are going to come to a place that requires forgiveness. This is a personal step that will bring peace into your life.

Don’t waste another minute being stuck holding on to these horrid emotions and heavy chains.

To talk more about forgiveness or spark a conversation about your situation, let me lend an ear. Get in touch today.

Discover the important role that our values play in our decision-making and how we can adopt values to start winning in life.

© 2018 Janine Naus

7 Values You Should Adopt

Whoever you are and whatever journey you’re on, you will most certainly have needed to make some important decisions along the way. But what is it that helps us make these significant choices? And why are they often so different to the choices made by others around us, even when they’re facing similar circumstances?

Well, this is where our values come into play. We all have a number of core values that play a part in every decision we make, big or small. Most people don’t know what their core values are and, as a result, they make decisions that lead them astray and find that they are left feeling stuck in situations that make them unhappy. Simply being aware of this is a valuable tool and can play a vital role in healing feelings of powerlessness and frustration.

My values and I

Whether we’re aware of them or not, we all have our core set of values. For me, being aware of them and making value-based decisions has led me to dedicate my life to helping people just like you, to transform their lives and overcome their trauma.

I follow seven values that you may want to consider adopting. The values you choose will help you determine the life you want, through the decisions you want to make.

So, what are they?

1.  Integrity

Always listen to your inner voice and never lose faith of what exists inside you. Pure integrity allows us all to forever feel whole and complete.

2.  Authenticity

You’re 100% committed to living (and loving!) a life aligned with your values and purpose.

3.  Compassion

Your compassion is boundless and shines throughout, helping you to naturally understand and care for your own trauma and that of others.

4.  Truthfulness 

To create heaven you must be honest with yourself and others.  You mask no secrets and share your truth with complete compassion, limitless love and undeniable understanding.

5.  Personal Development

Arriving at this point in your journey isn’t by luck, nor is it by chance; your inquisitive and curious nature to positivity in life has got you here.

6.  Authentic Love

You’re devoted to authentic love - through compassion, patience, kindness and determination to understand everyone who needs your help, advice or simply to lend your ear.

7.  Inspiration

It doesn’t matter who you are, or what life’s thrown at you… Trauma will ALWAYS pass. You inspire others to never give up hope and tirelessly reassure them that they’ll find perfect harmony within themselves.

So, what’s next for you?

These values are just a snippet to your potential world and how you will make decisions in the future. Your values are not fixed, you can choose and learn to follow any values to enjoy a cherished life, filled with love and meaningful relationships. My values have allowed me to guide people to follow the things they love in life, and have led them to a happier, more authentic existence.

Take a deeper dive into these values here, or read my full personal story to understand my journey – be warned, it’s not for the faint-hearted.

Want to discuss your values? Click here to schedule your complimentary 30-minute Trauma Relief Strategy Session with me.

© 2018 Janine Naus